Value of life
This deficit can be not only a subjectively felt need, but also an attitude towards life, which, ultimately, can lead to burnout.
How do I understand my life? Based on this, I can develop my goals according to which I live. These settings can be from parents, or a person develops them in himself. For example: I want to achieve something. Or: I want to have three children. Become a psychologist, doctor or politician. Thus, a person for himself outlines goals that he wants to follow.
This is completely normal. Which of us has no goals in life? But if goals become the content of life, if they become too great values, then they lead to rigid, frozen behavior. Then we put all our strength in order to achieve our goal. And everything that we do becomes a means to an end. And this does not carry its own value, but represents only useful value.
“It’s so good that I will play the violin!” – this is a living of one’s own worth But if I want to be the first violin in a concert, then, playing some piece, I will constantly compare myself with others. I know that I still need to exercise, play and play in order to achieve the goal. That is, my orientation toward the target prevails due to the orientation towards value. Thus, a deficit of internal relations arises. I do something, but in what I do, there is no inner life. And then my life loses its life value. I myself destroy internal contents in order to achieve goals.
And when a person thus neglects the intrinsic value of things, does not pay enough attention to this, an underestimation of the value of his own life arises. That is, it turns out that I use the time of my life for the goal that I set for myself. This leads to a loss of relationship and to self-inconsistency. And with such an inattentive attitude to internal values and the values of one’s own life, stress arises.
All that we have just spoken about can be summarized as follows. The stress that leads to burnout is due to the fact that we have been doing something for too long without a sense of internal consent, without a sense of the value of things and ourselves. Thus we come to a state of pre-depression.
It also happens when we do too much and just for the sake of doing. For example, I cook dinner only so that it is ready as soon as possible. And then I’m glad when he is already behind, done. But if we rejoice that something has already passed, this is an indicator that we have not seen the value in what we do. And if it does not have value, then I can’t say that I like to do it, that it is important for me.
If we have too many of these elements in our lives, then, in fact, we are glad that life passes by. So we like death, annihilation. If I just do something, this is not life – this is functioning. And we should not, we do not have the right to function too much – we must ensure that in everything we do, we live, feel life. So that she does not pass us by.
Burnout is such a mental account that we are exposed to for a long, alienated relationship with life. This is a life that is not truly mine.
Anyone who is more than half the time busy with things that he does reluctantly, does not give his heart to it, does not feel joy at the same time, he must sooner or later expect to survive the burnout syndrome. Then I am in danger. Wherever I feel in my heart an inner consensus on what I am doing and I feel, there I am protected from burnout.
How can burnout syndrome be handled and how can it be prevented? Much can be decided on its own if a person understands what burnout syndrome is associated with. If you understand this about yourself or about your friends, then you can begin to solve this problem, talk to yourself or friends about it. Should I continue to live this way?
I myself felt that way two years ago. I intended to write a book during the summer. With all the papers I went to my cottage. He arrived, looked around, went for a walk, talked with neighbors. The next day I did the same: I called my friends, we met. On the third day again. I thought, generally speaking, I should already start. But I did not feel much desire in myself. I tried to remind you what is needed, what the publisher is waiting for – it was already pressure.
Then I remembered burnout syndrome. And I said to myself: I probably need more time, and my desire will surely come back. And I allowed myself to watch. After all, desire came every year. But that year it did not come, and until the end of the summer I did not even open this folder. I did not write a single line. Instead, I relaxed and did wonderful things. Then I began to hesitate, how do I feel about it – as bad or as good? It turns out that I could not, it was a failure. Then I told myself that it was reasonable and good that I did so.